This Is My New Jersey

Stop what you are doing. If you aren’t driving, close your eyes, and take a deep breath.

Take another deep breath.

Pause.

Today, Sheriff Richard Berdnik, a decorated and highly respected officer, took his own life. It is a tremendous loss to his family, his fellow officers, and his community. The Clifton Police Department has turned the investigation over to the Paterson Police Department due to the circumstances surrounding the death.

Sheriff Berdnik was raised in Clifton, graduated from Clifton High School, and served 28 years with the Clifton Police Department. He was most recently a sheriff with Passaic County for approximately 13 years.

It has been a tumultuous time as of late. It has been harder for some. According to the Department of Justice, approximately 15 percent of police on a national basis suffer from Posttraumatic Stress Disorder (PTSD). According to the National Institutes of Health, study results identified retired officers were less likely to commit suicide than currently employed officers. In general, police officers are more likely to commit suicide while still working.

In 2021, 143 law enforcement officers committed suicide. In 2022, the number increase to 160. Nationally, police officers have been the prime focus on hostility from many civilians. Nothing they can do for some is right. The media doesn’t help. Add to that individuals that consider yelling about the police their own cottage industry. Well, it’s a lot of pressure.

While yes, there are bad cops, I sincerely believe there are a lot more good ones. Those who want to serve their community. To make a small part of the world a little better.

The Stigma is Still There

Despite what many say, sadly, there is still a stigma around mental health. It’s been getting better, but the stigma is still there. Let’s face it, the star athlete or famous actor tells the world they are suffering with depression, they are lauded for being “brave.” The average schmuck tells the world they are suffering with anxiety or depression, it becomes fodder for gossip. Your colleagues at work find out about your situation. Are they wondering if a day will come when you “go postal” at the office? No one wants to sit next to a potential ticking time bomb.

It may sound harsh, but that’s the truth no one will say out loud.

So people are left to carry their burden. First responders and those who serve in the military are especially susceptible due to the high level of stress they encounter on a daily basis.

So what do we do?

I ask this. Give people a little grace. The ones who are most boisterous, social, and outgoing, can also be the ones in the most pain. You never know what someone else is enduring. In a society where people are keyboard warriors; where it is easy to be snarky; while social media divides many and name calling is rampant, take a breath. Be nice.

Breathe.

There is Help

Just know this. There is help.

Those struggling with mental health or suicidal thoughts are urged to call 988 or 1-855-654-6735 for assistance. Members of law enforcement who may also be dealing with any issues may also call 1-866-COP-2COP. Don’t be afraid to turn to someone for help. A counselor. A priest or other ecclesiastic. Your spouse. A friend. There are many around you who would rather be a sympathetic ear and a shoulder to lean on, than mourn you.

Breathe. And choose again.